How to keep conversation flowing on your first phone call
There’s always a flutter of excitement that goes along with that first phone call. Your heart seeks something special in that person, and your brain is processing all kinds of signals and information you are too excited to even notice. So here are some soothing notes from Dil Milay the online dating app for young South Asians seeking love and friendships online where they currently work or study.
Keep that flow of ideas going
Think back on the conversations you started and keep that going. Hopefully, you’ve gotten a good start to build on topics, maybe some gentle fun chats or teasing that you can continue, smoothly.
Establishing interests and topics you both like to engage in, is ideally done before a call, but there is no time like the present to carry on communicating and both getting to know more about each other on a first call.
The main thing is:
1. Be confident that you have something to offer
You’ve piqued someone’s interest, enough for them to share all that comes with a phone call. Vulnerability. Personality through their voice and the joy and stress of ‘live’ conversation.
You have cut through all the messages and interested someone enough for both of you to take that next, fun step. You are both at least willing to try, otherwise they wouldn’t have responded!
2. Be who you are
This is not always as easy as it sounds. We might want to assure the other online dater that they made a good choice and you are a quality person. Perhaps you might even want to impress. It’s human nature. A hedge against rejection.
But best to be you, and to go forward or to know it is not the right connection for either one of you, early, if that is the case. It’s a matter of boundaries and you won’t know them if you are not you.
3. Do give a compliment
While a phone call does reveal a great deal about a person, you don’t have that instant signaling that we naturally share when we have in-person and visual contact.
There’s no body language to indicate you are pleased with someone’s appearance, or the style there are showing in their clothing selection. There’ not that instant fun and flirtation of a raised eyebrow or a smile to encourage people.
You do have your words, tone of voice and even laughter. So do compliment on what you sincerely can. Think back to the online dating profile that first piqued your interest. Take your phone conversation, at least to start, to pick up from the messages you exchanged, or what he or she has shared in their profile as a warm conversation starter.
Compliments have the power to open conversation, especially when based on the information they shared in their profile. Ideally your phone conversation partner is always thinking they can be themselves too!!
Why be alone, when you can be in touch with someone special?
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